MY IDEAL FUTURE WIFE

       Marriage is the most wanted event in our life. We can’t make sure of someone who will marry us or be marriaged by us. The marriage partner depends on our God’s decision, but we must have strunggle to find and choose the fit person for us. Those are three matters which must be defined definetly based on above.

• Livelihood
  • It is only in our God’s hand but we couldn’t just do nothing, we must be able to work hard to fulfill our daily need and necessary. Additionally, when we have marriaged and had responsibility as the leader of family, our daily financial will be an extra burden to complete all things in family needs.
• Death
  • Death must come into our life surely. It can be a sudden action unexpectedly that we can’t predict it before. We must be ready to face it.
• Marriage Partner
  • Obviously, marriage partner is very mysterious to know and discover. Finding out our marriage partner very looks easy. In fact, it is so difficult enough. There are several factors that influence us to choose our marriage partner such as performance ( beautiful / handsome), wealth / money (poor / rich), attitude or behaviour, family (from nobility character family).

Which one is for you?

Soon or later, we will get marriaged. In my mind, an ideal wife should meet several criteria. Four of which are religious, beautiful, smart, and of course receiving me what the way it is.

1. Religious

         In one tradition, our prophet Muhammad (peace be upon to him) said “ a woman is marriaged because of 4 matters: her wealth, child production, beauty, and religion. So, it had better to choose a wife who have kept her religion and you will be dissapointed if you don’t choose her because of it.”

2. My future wife should be beautiful both inside and outside.it means, even my future wife has beautiful face, bright skin, sharp noose, sexy lips and many others. She also must have a well mannered in her daily life. The reason why? Because she will be mine forever belongs to my heart.
3. Besides it, my future wife should be smart both intelectual and social life in keeping my children. Basicly, i believe that every single family has a lot of problems which they have to solve it quickly and wisely. Therefore, i do need a smart wife to accompany me, motivate me, and encourage me to overcome all problems inside.
4. The last criterion, receiving me what the way it is, will be the additional hope for my chosen wife. That means my future wife should understand my character, ex, childish or selfish, and remind me if having mistakes, because every human has different character. As human being, i will do some mistakes when living together with her, so that i need someone who reminds me.

My future wife should not be a perfect person, at least, she can approach those criteria i told above. If God gives me a chance, i am going to choose a woman who will make me happy in this world and hereafter.

Every single family must want to get a pleasant life. As the moslem, we have to be able to follow our prophet’s ways to build our own household. So that, i this occasion, i would like to share what our prophet have commanded and given a guidance.

   – Choose her from the quality of her religion.

This factor is a determined thing when choosing a marriaged partner. However, Islam is a pure religion, so we must depend on the guidance of wise and good ways. Don’t be trapped in wrong way.

   – Forbidden to marry an unbeliever woman (Kafiroh)

   – Try to find out someone who has a far distance of our relative.

Our religion has already informed to us not to choose our life partner from our inside family because it will give a weakness for child’ soul and brain generally. It is better to choose another one coming from a far distance which functions to strength the next generation.

   – Select a bearable or productive woman.

Islam suggests us to choose a single woman who has an easy of boring our child later. It can be determined or observed by some doctor’s help. Moreover, she has no diseases to defend the pregnant and is always ready to be a house wife.

   – A virgin woman is highly recommended.

Determining our partner must be prioritised by marrying a virgin woman than widow surely.

Well, all readers whom i love because of Alloh SWT.

Those are some materials which must be paid attention and taken a note to choose the candidate of our marriage partner. Especially for gentlemen, we do hope our wife later will be Sholehah woman (not Sholehot) generally, so our household will be peaceful, quiet fully, and islamic surely. Amin.

This has been written only to functions as an alarm mark of writing for the writer as one of the best presentation in Speaking subject lectured by Mr. Sa’adi.

Regards,

 

Danne Zygwyne

THE INFLUENCE OF EDUCATIONAL WESTERN CULTURE IN INDONESIA

It is undeniable anymore that some western cultures have shown its developing spread rapidly. Surprisingly, many changes happened and removed some original educational cultures in Indonesia. Indonesia has a special characteristic in education exactly about islamic educational learning. The number of islamic boarding school is a great increasement which explodes islamic education widespreadly while learning more what islam is. They learn how to get a simple life, to be a independent one, and to have a well-mannered. In other hand, when the western colonizers arrived and disseminated some western perceptions, those are changed.

We could look at the differences when a lot of people were still taught by some clerics and they used to learn some materials in the corner of mosque because it was only a strategic place to load some students. But nowadays, it is only a remembrance of the history life in islamic boarding school. Mostly, some learnings take a place in the luxurious building such as called the dormitory school or even the methods are various as like a long distance teaching by using educational online method in internet. Many things have an influence both positive and negative effect. We don’t know which one gives a better influence in modern era. But the important thing, our past developing islamic culture is the base of the first disposition of spreading educational learning in Indonesia.

THE WAYS TO INTERACT OTHERS

Sometimes you find a difficulty in interacting with others who have different characters. Morever you have no something in common in daily activity. Your interaction will be separated by inactive communication or incompatibility sense. Basicly, the first thing which you must be solved are breaking negative thinking or throwing the lose of communication and building the mindset of positive thinking to increase our ability when practicing directly in the exact time.

Therefore, you can be failed when making an interaction, if you don’t apply some principles for increasing our intelegency to interact others. In this case, the main element is “YOU”. The negative spiritual is only to lose a great spirit. So, motivate yourself and try to build communication and cooperation in getting a good relationship and connection with others.

The good method to interact others is arranging some purposes to connect the interaction  at the first time and determine what you will know more accurately while saving it all inside your mind. Let yourself step on applying steadily and surely the right way when having a good interaction then continued to othera, the key to assure this method is only YOU. Do or leave it!